"We're like family" can hurt your career

The phrase “our team is like a family” has become a tired cliché in job posts. Too often, companies play the family card when things are going well, but when challenges arise—like financial losses—you’re suddenly a “cost center” that needs trimming.

Sometimes, a company does feel like you belong. This is especially true if you’ve been there from the early days, helping it grow and shape its culture. In those cases, the workplace doesn’t just feel familiar—it feels like home. As one of the first employees, you’ve likely contributed to the vibe of the company in ways you’re proud of. You’ve built relationships, gained trust, and established yourself as a go-to expert. You’re in a position where your voice is heard, your opinions are valued, and you feel safe enough to speak up.

What happens when that “family feeling” no longer feels right?

Over time, you may realize the company no longer fits you as well as it once did. It’s natural—companies evolve, and so do people. The reality is that it’s rare for an employee and a company to grow in perfect alignment. More often than not, one outgrows the other.

This can leave you in a tricky spot. You sense something’s off, but it’s not bad enough to leave. So you stay. And while staying in a comfortable place feels safe, it can also hold you back—professionally and personally.

The longer you stay in a role that no longer challenges or fulfils you, the more you risk stagnation or even burnout. Stepping out of that comfort, though intimidating, often sparks growth. If you’ve been at a company for a long time and it feels like family, but your role no longer excites or satisfies you—listen to that feeling. Don’t dismiss it to avoid discomfort. Embrace it and explore what’s next for you.